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11 December 2025
"I should be baking cookies with my kids right now."

"I should be baking cookies with my kids right now."
That thought hit me this week like a punch in the mom guilt.
Not because anyone said it. But because when the standard is perfection and comparison creeps in, it always tells you that whatever you're doing, it's not enough.
It doesn't matter that we just took our kids on an out-of-state Polar Express trip, complete with two nights in a hotel and the best hot chocolate a kid could ask for. And that Anthony and I spent the entire day yesterday Christmas shopping. All I could think was… but we haven't baked any cookies 😳
Meanwhile, I bet some mom somewhere is baking cookies and quietly thinking she should've done more fun experiences.
Comparison really is the thief of joy.
If we're not careful, the to-do list stops being a helpful tool and becomes a harsh master.. One that tells you, "You're behind." "You're not doing enough." "Someone is going to be disappointed."
This is especially true at Christmas when all we want is for our homes to be full of joy and warm memories surrounding the season.
But the pressure we carry to create that for them can get so heavy sometimes that we forget the One who already came to carry the weight for us.
For many Christian moms, there's this unspoken pressure to live up to an idealized version of the Proverbs 31 woman. The one who rises while it is yet night, provides food for her household, and whose children rise up and call her blessed. But what we often miss in our pursuit of Proverbs 31 perfection is that her strength and dignity came from the Lord, not from her flawless execution of every holiday tradition.
Feeling stressed, anxious, tense, or worried are all red flags 🚩🚩🚩 that I've allowed perfectionism or comparison to take over again.
The Proverbs 31 woman was known for many things, but chronic anxiety wasn't one of them. Proverbs 31:25 says she "laughs at the time to come" because her trust was in the Lord. When we're drowning in stress, we are not operating in the freedom Christ gave us.
So when that pressure hits, here is what I've learned to do.
I force myself to get still and remember that God cares about every part of it. And I "cast it on Him."
Like really cast it. The kind of emotional unloading that would probably overwhelm another human 😆
But we’re not imposing on Him. We're giving Him the opportunity to show how tender His heart toward us really is. He wants to carry what weighs us down. He wants to remind us of the truth. He wants to be our peace.
1 Peter 5:7 tells us to cast ALL our anxieties on Him because He cares for us. This is a command rooted in His character. He is not annoyed by our burdens. Even the ones that feel petty to us.
When we remember the truth of the gospel and who is in control, we don't fear what's ahead because we trust the Author. We lay down the striving. We keep showing up, but from a place of peace.
The pressure to create a great Christmas for our kids usually comes from a good desire. We love them. We want their memories to be joyful.
But Jesus already gave them the greatest gift. Our job isn't to manufacture perfection. It's to point them to Him.
The Proverbs 31 woman's children called her blessed not because she executed every task flawlessly, but because "she opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue" (Proverbs 31:26). They remembered her character, her faith, and her peace...not her Pinterest-perfect holidays. 🫠😬
So maybe this Christmas, instead of drowning in the to-do list, we throw it at His feet. We do our best, yes, but we trust Him with the results. We remember that He cares about every detail.
And we trust that the cookies, and definitely not the presents, will be what they remember.
They will remember a mom who was peacefully present. Who smiled often. Who showed them the sweetness of a relationship with Jesus.
The beauty of Christian motherhood isn't found in our ability to do it all. It's found in surrendering it all to the One who holds us. The Proverbs 31 woman feared the Lord (Proverbs 31:30). And that reverence, that trust, that dependence on God is what made her truly excellent.
What if this Christmas we redefine what success looks like?
What if we measured our days not by the cookies baked or tasks completed, but by:
That's the kind of Proverbs 31 legacy that lasts. Not the one that performs, but the one that abides.
How often we cast our anxieties on Him
How quickly we returned to peace when stress rose up
How present we were with the people right in front of us
How clearly our lives pointed to Jesus
That's the kind of Proverbs 31 legacy that lasts. Not the one that performs, but the one that abides.
So here's your invitation, mama. What are you carrying today that was never meant to be yours?
The standard isn't perfection. The standard is Christ. In Him, you already have everything you need for Christian motherhood. Not because you’re enough, but because He is.
Cast your cares. Trust His heart. Smile more. Stress less.
And watch how He shows up in the ordinary, imperfect, beautifully surrendered moments of this season.
Before you run off to tackle your to-do list, I want to give you some questions to sit with:
What “shoulds” or perfectionist expectations am I carrying this Christmas, and how might I lay them at Jesus’ feet?
Where in my day am I present physically but mentally elsewhere, and how can I redirect my focus to the people right in front of me?
Am I measuring my worth or my kids’ joy by tasks completed, or by peace, faith, and love shared?
What burdens or anxieties have I been holding onto that God actually wants to carry for me?
How can I redefine “success” this season to honor Christ instead of Pinterest-perfect traditions or societal expectations?

HI, I'M BRITTNEY
Mom of six. Business leader. Podcaster.
Aspiring Proverbs 31 woman.



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11 December 2025
"I should be baking cookies with my kids right now."

"I should be baking cookies with my kids right now."
That thought hit me this week like a punch in the mom guilt.
Not because anyone said it. But because when the standard is perfection and comparison creeps in, it always tells you that whatever you're doing, it's not enough.
It doesn't matter that we just took our kids on an out-of-state Polar Express trip, complete with two nights in a hotel and the best hot chocolate a kid could ask for. And that Anthony and I spent the entire day yesterday Christmas shopping. All I could think was… but we haven't baked any cookies 😳
Meanwhile, I bet some mom somewhere is baking cookies and quietly thinking she should've done more fun experiences.
Comparison really is the thief of joy.
If we're not careful, the to-do list stops being a helpful tool and becomes a harsh master.. One that tells you, "You're behind." "You're not doing enough." "Someone is going to be disappointed."
This is especially true at Christmas when all we want is for our homes to be full of joy and warm memories surrounding the season.
But the pressure we carry to create that for them can get so heavy sometimes that we forget the One who already came to carry the weight for us.
For many Christian moms, there's this unspoken pressure to live up to an idealized version of the Proverbs 31 woman. The one who rises while it is yet night, provides food for her household, and whose children rise up and call her blessed. But what we often miss in our pursuit of Proverbs 31 perfection is that her strength and dignity came from the Lord, not from her flawless execution of every holiday tradition.
Feeling stressed, anxious, tense, or worried are all red flags 🚩🚩🚩 that I've allowed perfectionism or comparison to take over again.
The Proverbs 31 woman was known for many things, but chronic anxiety wasn't one of them. Proverbs 31:25 says she "laughs at the time to come" because her trust was in the Lord. When we're drowning in stress, we are not operating in the freedom Christ gave us.
So when that pressure hits, here is what I've learned to do.
I force myself to get still and remember that God cares about every part of it. And I "cast it on Him."
Like really cast it. The kind of emotional unloading that would probably overwhelm another human 😆
But we’re not imposing on Him. We're giving Him the opportunity to show how tender His heart toward us really is. He wants to carry what weighs us down. He wants to remind us of the truth. He wants to be our peace.
1 Peter 5:7 tells us to cast ALL our anxieties on Him because He cares for us. This is a command rooted in His character. He is not annoyed by our burdens. Even the ones that feel petty to us.
When we remember the truth of the gospel and who is in control, we don't fear what's ahead because we trust the Author. We lay down the striving. We keep showing up, but from a place of peace.
The pressure to create a great Christmas for our kids usually comes from a good desire. We love them. We want their memories to be joyful.
But Jesus already gave them the greatest gift. Our job isn't to manufacture perfection. It's to point them to Him.
The Proverbs 31 woman's children called her blessed not because she executed every task flawlessly, but because "she opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue" (Proverbs 31:26). They remembered her character, her faith, and her peace...not her Pinterest-perfect holidays. 🫠😬
So maybe this Christmas, instead of drowning in the to-do list, we throw it at His feet. We do our best, yes, but we trust Him with the results. We remember that He cares about every detail.
And we trust that the cookies, and definitely not the presents, will be what they remember.
They will remember a mom who was peacefully present. Who smiled often. Who showed them the sweetness of a relationship with Jesus.
The beauty of Christian motherhood isn't found in our ability to do it all. It's found in surrendering it all to the One who holds us. The Proverbs 31 woman feared the Lord (Proverbs 31:30). And that reverence, that trust, that dependence on God is what made her truly excellent.
What if this Christmas we redefine what success looks like?
What if we measured our days not by the cookies baked or tasks completed, but by:
That's the kind of Proverbs 31 legacy that lasts. Not the one that performs, but the one that abides.
How often we cast our anxieties on Him
How quickly we returned to peace when stress rose up
How present we were with the people right in front of us
How clearly our lives pointed to Jesus
That's the kind of Proverbs 31 legacy that lasts. Not the one that performs, but the one that abides.
So here's your invitation, mama. What are you carrying today that was never meant to be yours?
The standard isn't perfection. The standard is Christ. In Him, you already have everything you need for Christian motherhood. Not because you’re enough, but because He is.
Cast your cares. Trust His heart. Smile more. Stress less.
And watch how He shows up in the ordinary, imperfect, beautifully surrendered moments of this season.
Before you run off to tackle your to-do list, I want to give you some questions to sit with:
What “shoulds” or perfectionist expectations am I carrying this Christmas, and how might I lay them at Jesus’ feet?
Where in my day am I present physically but mentally elsewhere, and how can I redirect my focus to the people right in front of me?
Am I measuring my worth or my kids’ joy by tasks completed, or by peace, faith, and love shared?
What burdens or anxieties have I been holding onto that God actually wants to carry for me?
How can I redefine “success” this season to honor Christ instead of Pinterest-perfect traditions or societal expectations?

HI, I'M BRITTNEY
Mom of six. Business leader. Podcaster.
Aspiring Proverbs 31 woman.



This post may contain affiliate links. Read about our privacy policy.
11 December 2025
"I should be baking cookies with my kids right now."

"I should be baking cookies with my kids right now."
That thought hit me this week like a punch in the mom guilt.
Not because anyone said it. But because when the standard is perfection and comparison creeps in, it always tells you that whatever you're doing, it's not enough.
It doesn't matter that we just took our kids on an out-of-state Polar Express trip, complete with two nights in a hotel and the best hot chocolate a kid could ask for. And that Anthony and I spent the entire day yesterday Christmas shopping. All I could think was… but we haven't baked any cookies 😳
Meanwhile, I bet some mom somewhere is baking cookies and quietly thinking she should've done more fun experiences.
Comparison really is the thief of joy.
If we're not careful, the to-do list stops being a helpful tool and becomes a harsh master.. One that tells you, "You're behind." "You're not doing enough." "Someone is going to be disappointed."
This is especially true at Christmas when all we want is for our homes to be full of joy and warm memories surrounding the season.
But the pressure we carry to create that for them can get so heavy sometimes that we forget the One who already came to carry the weight for us.
For many Christian moms, there's this unspoken pressure to live up to an idealized version of the Proverbs 31 woman. The one who rises while it is yet night, provides food for her household, and whose children rise up and call her blessed. But what we often miss in our pursuit of Proverbs 31 perfection is that her strength and dignity came from the Lord, not from her flawless execution of every holiday tradition.
Feeling stressed, anxious, tense, or worried are all red flags 🚩🚩🚩 that I've allowed perfectionism or comparison to take over again.
The Proverbs 31 woman was known for many things, but chronic anxiety wasn't one of them. Proverbs 31:25 says she "laughs at the time to come" because her trust was in the Lord. When we're drowning in stress, we are not operating in the freedom Christ gave us.
So when that pressure hits, here is what I've learned to do.
I force myself to get still and remember that God cares about every part of it. And I "cast it on Him."
Like really cast it. The kind of emotional unloading that would probably overwhelm another human 😆
But we’re not imposing on Him. We're giving Him the opportunity to show how tender His heart toward us really is. He wants to carry what weighs us down. He wants to remind us of the truth. He wants to be our peace.
1 Peter 5:7 tells us to cast ALL our anxieties on Him because He cares for us. This is a command rooted in His character. He is not annoyed by our burdens. Even the ones that feel petty to us.
I kept coming back to John 15, where Jesus describes Himself as the vine and us as the branches: "Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5).
Abide-to dwell continuously, to make your home. When Christ is our dwelling place and we walk with Him daily, He produces the fruit in our Christian business and motherhood. Our role is faithfulness, not fruitfulness. That's His domain.
Just as I was processing all of this, I came across a story that perfectly illustrated what God was teaching me about preparation in Christian entrepreneurship.
A woman received a berry garden as a gift-strawberries and blueberries planted in her backyard. That first summer, beautiful blossoms appeared, and she eagerly (and proudly!) anticipated the fruit to come.
Then her experienced neighbors told her something counterintuitive: she needed to pinch off every single blossom. Not just that year, but the following year as well. Only in the third year could she finally enjoy the harvest.
At first, this seemed wasteful. Why destroy those promising blooms?
But here's the agricultural wisdom that applies to faith-based entrepreneurship: pinching off early blossoms forces the plant to channel all its energy into root depth rather than premature fruit production.
This intentional pruning creates:
Stronger, thicker roots that establish a framework capable of supporting heavier fruit later
Robust stems that won't break under the weight of bigger fruit in your Christian business
Deep root systems that can weather storms and droughts without collapsing
Compounding growth where each season builds on the strength of the previous one
Without this early sacrifice, plants develop shallow roots and weak stems. They might produce small fruit quickly, but they struggle long-term and eventually burn out.
The parallel struck me immediately: What if my "unproductive" year wasn't regression at all? What if God was growing deeper roots in me-roots capable of sustaining the harvest I've been praying for in my life and in my business?
In business and in leadership, strong roots aren't always visible or impressive in the moment. They're the unsexy foundation work that makes sustainable growth possible for the aspiring Proverbs 31 woman:
Developing genuine competence in sales, marketing, and biblical leadership (not just chasing quick wins)
Building systems and boundaries that protect what matters most—your family and your walk with the Lord
Growing in emotional maturity to handle criticism constructively as a Christian leader
Cultivating communication skills that navigate conflict while building stronger relationships
Anchoring your identity in Christ rather than others' approval or business metrics
These don't generate instant recognition. They don't produce impressive early metrics. But they create the capacity to sustain long-term fruitfulness without burnout—essential for the Christian momma who is building toward her future vision for her family and wants to build a successful business.
I've watched many talented women burst onto the scene with impressive early results-only to struggle later because they lacked the root system to sustain their growth. At times I’ve been one of them!!
Here's what forced fruit often looks like for the Proverbs 31 woman in business:
Chasing validation and visibility over building genuine competence in the needed skills
Scaling without systems or boundaries, which leads to overwhelm rather than freedom
Requiring constant external affirmation to manage internal emotions
Saying yes to everything out of guilt rather than stewarding capacity wisely as a Christian mom
This isn't sustainable for any woman balancing Christian motherhood and entrepreneurship. It's borrowing from your future self to look successful now. And the cost is often burnout, resentment, and influence that doesn't last.
A Better Question for the Aspiring Proverbs 31 Woman
The question I now ask before committing to anything in my business: Is this positioning me for long-term fruit, or is it just building today's ego?
Real, sustainable growth in business doesn't deplete the system, it strengthens it.
For me as a believer, that means being intentional about the disciplines that actually develop strong roots:
Spiritual Roots for Christian Entrepreneurs
Spiritually: Daily Scripture reading, prayer, Sabbath rest, and weekly corporate worship. These are the ordinary means of grace God uses to refine us and make us more like Christ. They're not optional extras for the Christian mom in business - they're the lifeline.
Professionally: Learning to serve people genuinely rather than chasing transactions. Developing communication skills that connect with hearts and lead with biblical wisdom. Building systems that create margin rather than chaos.
Emotionally: Managing my internal world without addiction to others' approval. Receiving feedback as a tool for growth rather than a referendum on my worth as a mom, leader, entrepreneur, or woman.
The Root Depth Test for Christian Leadership
That last one is perhaps the most telling indicator of root depth in Christian business: How you receive feedback reveals how strong your foundation is.
Surrendering Your Business Plan to God
After working through all of this, I did something that felt both terrifying and freeing for my business: I made a plan for this year, and then I surrendered it.
I'm committed to the work (with renewed clarity and purified motives!!) but I'm holding it all with an open hand. I'm abiding in Christ daily and trusting Him to bring the fruit in His perfect timing, both in my motherhood and my business.
I want to build peacefully and purposefully, not from a place of striving or comparison.
Because ultimately, recognition and achievement are byproducts. The real goal is fruit, right?! Kingdom fruit that lasts and impacts generations through biblical business principles.
Encouragement for the Woman Who Feels Like She Failed
If you're looking back at a year that feels like failure to reach your goals, I want to offer you a different lens:
What if you didn't regress? What if you were being prepared for greater impact as a Proverbs 31 woman?
What if God was pruning early blossoms so He could grow roots deep enough to sustain the harvest you've been praying for?
Sometimes the most productive seasons in Christian entrepreneurship look the least impressive. Sometimes growth happens underground before it's visible above the surface.
Don't be afraid to set goals again for your faith-based business. Don't let disappointment silence the calling God has placed on your life as a Christian mom and entrepreneur.
Instead, take it all to the Lord - the shame, the fear, the discouragement - and surrender it.
Then trust Him to do what only He can do: produce fruit that lasts in your Christian business and motherhood.
"Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain" (Psalm 127:1)
Before you run off to tackle your to-do list, I want to give you some questions to sit with:
Where have I been calling something “failure” that God may actually be using to deepen my roots?
Take a moment to name the areas that feel disappointing and ask the Lord what He’s been forming in you beneath the surface.
Am I responding more to conviction that leads to growth-or accusation that leads to shame and silence?
What thoughts have been shaping how you see yourself as a mom, leader, or businesswoman lately?
If long-term fruit is the goal, what roots might God be inviting me to strengthen right now?
Spiritually, emotionally, or practically-what foundational work needs patience instead of pressure?
These aren't easy questions. But they're important ones.
Ready to build deeper roots in your Christian business? Here are three practical steps:
Audit your spiritual disciplines - Are you consistently abiding in Christ through prayer, Scripture, and Sabbath rest?
Evaluate your motivations - Are you chasing validation or building genuine competence in biblical leadership?
Surrender your plan - Make your goals, then hold them with an open hand before the Lord, then work faithfully and diligently on whatever He has called you to do.
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HI, I'M BRITTNEY
Mom of six. Business leader. Podcaster.
Aspiring Proverbs 31 woman.



The problem? I had zero business experience, no career background, and as an introvert living in a tiny country town, I barely knew anyone. I tried and failed at several things before discovering network marketing - a business model that gave me products I believed in, skills I could learn, and mentors to guide me. Over time, I built not only a thriving business but also the confidence and leadership to help other women do the same. Now I mentor ambitious Christian moms to build six-figure network marketing businesses on biblical principles, without manipulation, without hustle, and without sacrificing their faith or family.
Here’s what I believe:
• The world says strive → God says surrender.
• The world says hurry → God says walk faithfully.
• The world says achieve → God says be fruitful.
• The world says hustle harder → God says be diligent.
I believe profit is simply the reward for serving people well. I believe diligence honors God more than hustle. And I believe that when we build our businesses faithfully, the fruit of it impacts generations.
Welcome to where



The problem? I had zero business experience, no career background, and as an introvert living in a tiny country town, I barely knew anyone. I tried and failed at several things before discovering network marketing - a business model that gave me products I believed in, skills I could learn, and mentors to guide me. Over time, I built not only a thriving business but also the confidence and leadership to help other women do the same. Now I mentor ambitious Christian moms to build six-figure network marketing businesses on biblical principles, without manipulation, without hustle, and without sacrificing their faith or family.
Here’s what I believe:
• The world says strive → God says surrender.
• The world says hurry → God says walk faithfully.
• The world says achieve → God says be fruitful.
• The world says hustle harder → God says be diligent.
I believe profit is simply the reward for serving people well. I believe diligence honors God more than hustle. And I believe that when we build our businesses faithfully, the fruit of it impacts generations.
Welcome to where







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